Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Thoughts

 My daughter is a type I diabetic, diagnosed at age 14. She will be 20 in a few months. When we first found out about it, I took ownership of her disease. I read everything I could, managed her diet and constantly managed her illness. I thought I was the only person who could do it.  I became a nag, always checking that she was monitoring her blood sugars and following her meal plan. She would get so upset! " Mom, I KNOW what I have to do! I KNOW what the consequences are!"  In time, I learned to keep my opinions to myself and let her take care of it. However, even today, I still find myself starting to ask her if she took her insulin. I even ask sometimes." Mom!!! " she exclaims.
My son will be finishing rehab and coming home soon . I am feeling apprehensive. Will I try to "manage" my son's disease as I did my daughter's?  Hopefully, I will mind my own business, set good boundaries and keep taking care of myself. I could go buy some duct tape ............



4 comments:

Dad and Mom said...

It is very hard to do what is required as a parent of an addict. I too had a hard time keeping my mouth shut but it is best in the long run.

After about a year of my son in recovery I thought a lot about my experience and put down some things I learned and had to constantly think about to stay the course. You can find my list here: http://parentsofanaddict.blogspot.com/2011/11/parents-and-recovery.html

Hope this helps.

Sheri said...

Great list! I am going to start a journal and need to make a list like that .

Unknown said...

Sheri, my adult son (24) will be coming home on friday. I am terrified, but cautiously optimistic. Why am I terrified? The whole trust issue. He violated our trust horribly, lying to us to get large sums of money, and basically lying about everything else. I just keep telling myself that he is not a bad person, but he does do bad things when he is using.

"Dad and Mom" I have been reading your blog and it is extremely helpful. Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences.

It is so good to be online and know we are not alone in our struggles.

DansMom said...

Sheri, my adult son (24) will be coming home on friday. I am terrified, but cautiously optimistic. Why am I terrified? The whole trust issue. He violated our trust horribly, lying to us to get large sums of money, and basically lying about everything else. I just keep telling myself that he is not a bad person, but he does do bad things when he is using.

"Dad and Mom" I have been reading your blog and it is extremely helpful. Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences.

It is so good to be online and know we are not alone in our struggles.