My son is an opiate addict. I hope that by sharing my story I can help others heal as I am learning to heal
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Holding Back
I wonder if I will ever be able to talk with my son and believe anything he says? I want to do it, but I always "hold back" that trust that he is on the right track this time. Someone told me at last week's meeting "Don't ask any question you really don't want the answer to". I find myself not asking anything. Its a crummy way to interact. I don't like it.
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I operated on the premise, believe in him but protect yourself.
No, you won't be able to believe a word he says, even though much of it will doubtless be truthful, for as long as he's actively addicted... Addicts cannot live life on life's terms, especially as society is not set up, in the main part, to enable addicts to continue to use. As long as he's at odds with society and with you, he'll continue to lie. Truth hurts, and opiate addiction in particular is an escape from pain ...
I just want to make sure I am clear, believe IN him.
You have no honest reason to believe him at this point.
Thank you Dad and Mom. The believe IN him but protect myself comment is a good mantra for me.
My son, now 30, has graduated the program and still tells me that the alcoholic brain is a masterful liar. I always want to Trust but after so many years of fighting this ugly disease, my word is HOPE. I've learned to omit Expectation from my vocabulary.
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